I just had lunch with some girlfriends, all of whom live very interesting lives, and we had a blast. I loved seeing them and realised I have spent too much time with my DH!! They are all so positive and fun and energetic. Oh it was lovely to be around positive energy. I felt uplifted and energetic.
It got me thinking. How can I get my DH to refocus a bit on the positive side of life? Instead of him listing his woes and worried I shall ask him to talk to the kids, tell them how excited he is and what he plans on doing with them and all the good things that he is worried about not achieving.
Anyone got any other ideas??
Mine was fearful and really turd-like about finances and way to high expectations - especially having to raise boy right - because his Dad sucked and there for he might suck - and it is okay to suck for a girl - but not a boy - and he is not as good as he should be.... -
ReplyDeleteWhen the babies came out and the girl went to the NICU struggling to breathe and the boy went to the regular nursery - WHOA!!!
All those fights and aggravations went away - he put on his BIG BOY BOXERS and it has been smooth sailing!
Best of luck on your voyage in 10 weeks are so!!
Sorry, I never got to spell check or grammar check! I had 2 screaming 14 month olds and a grouchy hubby!
ReplyDeleteSo glad you had a great time with your girlfriends and that you're in such high spirits!
ReplyDeleteI recently brought home the dvd of a 2009 movie called, "The Boys Are Back" starring Clive Owen - it's a great movie inspired by a true story about a father whose wife dies of cancer and he is left alone to raise two boys - Mr. Hatter was so freaked out throughout the whole thing because it's obviously a worst-case scenario, but at the same time, it's a reminder that even though our lives are stressful now, things could be much much worse so we shouldn't take what we have for granted. Maybe that would work on your DH?
Thinking of you.
Love,
Maddy
Glad you had a good time with the girls! We definitely need that sometimes.
ReplyDeleteWhat about asking your DH to go out and buy something for the babies? Give him instructions to go buy lullaby CDs or some story books. Anything that will make him have to put some thought and time into thinking about the babies and how it will be to play music for them or read to them.